You might be asking yourself, “how do I find my passion.” As you live your life, nothing sticks out to you. Everything might seem routine or bland. Your routine is: wake up, go to work, come home, and go to bed.
When you think about your life, you feel depressed and unmotivated. You start to wonder if there is anything in your life that makes your life worth living. You then begin to wonder why others are so happy. You begin to question yourself.
Am I the only one who feels like this?
The surprising answer is no. Most people will feel like this in their lifetimes.
Sometimes we lose interest in things. Something interesting and exciting to you before now seems mundane. You no longer want to do it. It is now considered a chore. Well, when that happens, it is time to find a new passion.
There are a ton of listicles and advice columns with different ways to find your passion. The truth is, they repeat and list the same two ideas over and over without real context. These two ideas are that you already have your passion, but you don’t know it, or you need to try something new.
Table of Contents
- #1 – Look at What You Already Do
- #2 – Revive an Old Passion
- #3 – Try Something New
- List of Passions
#1 – Look at What You Already Do
There might be something that you do that brings you enthusiasm and excitement. You might not notice it because it is something small and simple. It doesn’t feel like it is something grand. You do it every day, and it puts that slight smile on your face.
It is your passion, but you don’t know it. You don’t know it because you have a misconception of what a passion should be.
Something you have an intense desire or enthusiasm for is a passion. People often believe a passion is something challenging and complex.
Your passion doesn’t have to make you money, be a hobby or skill, or anything complex. It has to be one of the few things you would do to make yourself happy.
Now, go back and think about the last 24 hours.
On a sheet of paper, number it from 1 to 24. Either fold the paper in half or draw a line down the center. Starting at 24, write down the current time. Then go back and write down the times for the last 24 hours.
Starting at 24, next to each time, list everything you can remember you did in that hour. Don’t worry about recalling each activity at a specific time. Focus more on what you remember than what you don’t.
Also, think about the conversations you had. Think about what you said to others. Write down your past discussion topics.
After you have written down what you did, remember how your feelings for each activity. Next to each activity, write down either ‘happy’, ‘sad’, ‘fear’, ‘anger’, or ‘indifferent’.
After that, look at each activity that has ‘happy’ written next to it. Did you have a strong desire to do these things? If you had to do any of these things right now, would you feel enthusiastic about doing it? Do you feel motivated again to do anything you have done in the past 24 hours?
If you feel strongly about something on your list, circle it. What you feel strongly about is a passion. If you did not experience anything that stood out in the past 24 hours, try this process again. Try it for a week and see if you can figure out your passion. If you can’t figure out your passion from this exercise, that’s okay.
It might mean you need to revive an old passion, or you might need to try something new.
#2 – Revive an Old Passion
Sometimes, we get stuck in a rut. We are no longer interested in things we loved before. Our passions seem dull, uninteresting and become part of our daily routine. We no longer think about the happiness they brought us. We mindlessly go through the actions.
No longer enjoying what we once loved is okay. We all get to a point where we are unable to enjoy doing something we once loved. Sometimes, we can revive our love for our passion or move on and pick a new one.
On a sheet of paper, write down a numbered list of all the steps it takes to complete your dead passion. Be as detailed as possible. If you were to explain to someone how to do your passion, what would you tell them?
Now that you have the steps written down write down how completing the step makes you feel. Does it make you feel happy, sad, angry, or afraid? Think of all the emotions you feel when you complete each step.
After you have your emotions written down next to each step, write down why you feel that emotion. What causes you to feel positive or negative about each step in the process? Think deeply about your feelings.
Decide how to handle each step with a negative emotion associated with it. Do you want to complete it, change it, or avoid it? Doing this will help you determine if it is worth it to continue to pursue your passion.
As humans, we always are changing. What I loved doing in my teens, I am no longer passionate about in my 30’s. Sometimes, it is time to try something new. It is time to pursue a new passion.
#3 – Try Something New
Finding a new passion can be daunting. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to find a new passion. You don’t have to have a new passion right this minute. Enjoy exploring the world and trying new things. Get out of your head.
Realize that being passionate about something isn’t a lifelong commitment. It can be something you like to do temporarily or long term. Find something you enjoy doing, talking about, and sharing with others.
Now, you are wondering what you should try. Start small and branch out. Passions are not lists of hobbies or goals. Your passion doesn’t have to make you money. Passions are bigger. People are passionate about general topics or subtopics.
List of Passions
Here is a small list of passions you can explore. See what items on the list resonate with you.
Finding your passion doesn’t have to be a complicated process. You don’t have to rush to find your passion. You also don’t need to force it. Once you master how to find your passion, you can branch out and find other passions.