Here’s What No One Tells You About How To Find Your Purpose

 I know you are looking for easy steps on “how to find your purpose.” I will be honest with you. I can’t tell you how to find your purpose because I haven’t discovered mine yet. Instead, I have found something better.

I have found the ability to achieve many of the things I want in life. I haven’t accomplished everything I wanted. No one does. Sometimes I change my mind. I have completed enough goals to bring happiness into my life. I no longer focus on finding my purpose. Instead, concentrate on achieving my goals. 

Achieving multiple goals in life is better than focusing on finding a single purpose. It is better to achieve various goals in life rather than trying to find some great objective.

Everything I achieved started with an idea. We all have ideas of what we want to do in life. Such as get a promotion, learn a new skill, start a business, lose weight, etc. Sometimes we don’t know where to start. Sometimes we have so many things we want to do, we lose focus, and we don’t get anything done.

If you want to get anything done, the best way is to narrow things down and focus. Focus on finding the one idea that you can turn into something bigger. Zoom in on something achievable.

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Step 1: The Idea Dump

Whenever I want to achieve something new in my life, I start with what I call an idea dump. It is me writing down everything I want to do in life. I don’t focus on the long term. I focus on now. 

When you do your idea dump, ask yourself, “What do I want today?” Think about if you could have anything in the world, what do you want. Then write down everything that you think you want.

I know some people say to write down everything that comes into your head. I’m afraid I have to disagree with this philosophy. Write down anything that makes an impact on you. 

Be mindful of how an idea makes you feel. Don’t write down ideas that make you feel anger, sadness, or fear. Write down the best ideas. The ideas that make you feel happy.

Focus on writing down those ideas that have been on your mind for a while. Something you might have heard about before. It can be something you have researched. It’s something you tried before, but you didn’t give all your effort.

You might only write down one thing. That is fine. Your list doesn’t need to be hundreds of ideas long. It needs to have one item on it. One idea that makes you feel happy or motivates you; an idea that works for you.

Now that you have this idea, you need to figure out if it is a good idea.

Step 2: Idea Elimination

Idea scoring is not scientific. Your beliefs, feelings, and what you think are its basis. The purpose of idea scoring is not to find the best idea on your list. It is to find the best idea for you.

Circle anything that goes against your belief system as you review your list. Next, meditate on why something on your list goes against your belief system. Then decide if you want to challenge your current belief system. If you don’t, cross these ideas off your list.

Next, think about the resources you have. Think about if you will have the time, money, abilities, and energy to focus on these ideas. If you have the resources to put towards these ideas, do you want to invest in these ideas for the long term? Cross off any items you don’t have the resources for or don’t want to invest.

Now, consider what ideas on your list require input from others. Think about if others will be willing to participate or assist you. If others would not be willing to participate, then cross it off your list.

Find anything on your list that you are second-guessing. Ask yourself if you’re going to push yourself to do something you might not want to do. If not, cross the ideas off the list.

After you have finished scoring your list, you should have at least one idea left that. If you don’t have an idea left, start again. 

Don’t worry too much about crossing ideas off your list. Today might not be the right time for the idea. The idea might pop back into your head at a later time.

Step 3: Idea Refinement

It is essential to refine your ideas into something that makes sense to you. Something that, when you read it, motivates you to take action. Refine your thoughts into something that brings you happiness. It is your time to think big.

Use Big idea words. These can be words like:

  • Become
  • Make
  • Found
  • Create
  • Innovate
  • Invent

You don’t have to use any of these words. Use words that make you think big. If one is too daunting, don’t use it. Your list shouldn’t be overwhelming or make you feel stressed out. You should feel happy about what you wrote.

Now, say the ideas on your list out loud. When you hear what is on your list, does it resonate with you? Can you understand what you wrote when you listen to it in your voice? Does the voice you have in your head match your actual voice? When you read the items on your list, do you feel happy? Do you feel confident?

If an idea doesn’t resonate with you, you need to decide if you should reword it or ignore it.

Step 4: Idea Selection

Idea selection is the last step in the process, but it is the most crucial step. I don’t want you to think of idea selection as your life’s purpose. The idea you pick is not permanent. You can change it at any point in time.

The purpose of picking the idea is to have a starting point. When you have this starting point, you can branch out into achievable goals. With this starting point, you have a direction.

It prevents you from living your life to living your life with a purpose.

Now, pick your one idea. If you have only one item left on your list, the next step is easy. If not, you have two choices. You can pick randomly or consciously. 

The easiest way is to pick randomly. It takes the least amount of time, and it doesn’t require that much effort. You can get started on something right away. If you can’t decide, pick randomly.

You can make a conscious effort to pick an idea. Go with what sticks out to you first. Don’t think too hard at this stage. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to have your entire life figured out. have some general idea of what you want to do for a while.


At the beginning of this blog post, you started unsure of what your purpose was. You had many questions that went unanswered. Now that you have an idea, the next step would be to discover what you want to do.

By Deborah

Deborah is the main content writer at Lazy Jack. She enjoys being a productivity master, being a cat mom, and making new discoveries.